To many, sex is not the major factor in a relationship although it may affect the atmosphere of the couple and the mood in the home. During sex, we secrete many hormones (dopamine, serotonin, endorphin and oxytocin), known as the feel good hormones that put us in a good mood and reinforce the chemistry with our partner.
Do not therefore take your sexuality as a couple lightly. In this article, we will begin by giving some signs which point to the issues you may have in your sexuality as a couple.
– Your partner no longer desires you like they used to. Several factors could be the cause of a drop in libido, such as stress, emotional overload, a change in your morphology or that of your partner.
– Sex has become a routine to both of you: you no longer feel the sparks; you either simulate or you silently endure it all…
– There is always an excuse not to have sex. You blame it on headaches, the kids if you have any, tiredness, the phone ringing…
The list is not exhaustive, the point is, you can feel whether you are sexually fulfilled or not since it is your pleasure and not someone else’s. Of course a drop in sex drive happens to almost all couples. To get back on track, here are some tips:
– Try to vary the places where you have sex: Having sex elsewhere than in the bedroom is not a taboo. A change of location will create a new setting and you will feel the thrill of that new adventure.
– Feel free to surprise your partner: It is important to spice up your sexuality. You could wear sheer lingerie and do naughty in line with your partner’s preferences. All that will only heighten your pleasure.
– Prepare yourself for that moment: Your aim being to sweep your partner off their feet, why not set everything right to zest up that special moment… The preparation consists in casting your worries aside, taking a bath, wearing some perfume and setting the “crime scene” (laughs).
– Communicate: Most couples think sex is a forbidden topic for discussion. This is undoubtedly why some people never experience orgasm and just fake it. Communication comes in before, during and after sexual intercourse. That way, you know what to improve on, as you discover what may please your partner or not.